Making New Year’s Resolutions has never been a habit of mine. Nevertheless, I do have goals.
I schedule time to re-visit my values, asking myself whether the actions I’m taking in my life align with what matters to me the most. The most natural time for me to do this is at the beginning of the secular (January) and the Jewish (Nisan)† year.
Here’s a redacted version* of some things I will do—on purpose, and with intent—in 2021.
Since I’m not a finance blogger, I’ll keep the details of my personal economic goals to myself redacted with green lines. The pink strikethrough covers a commitment to enhancing a particular relationship.
Really, what I’m trying to share here is an approach that I have found helpful for working toward what some might call my Life Plan. I aim to write down specific, achievable, list-tickable items that I know are within reach, but which will move me, inexorably, toward loftier ambitions.
I consider what I want from my life in a few key areas:
- intellectual,
- financial,
- health,
- personal relationships,
- and career/vocation.
The bigger goals might be described as:
- I will continue to exercise my mind until I’ve lost it.
- I want financial security for myself and my family.
- I will nurture my physical body.
- Human relationships are fundamental to my enjoyment of life.
- Though I’ve opted to stay at home, raising my children, I still have a role in the wider world which I’m expressing via this blog.
Resources abound with other, far more specific approaches to success. I’ve read books that will tell you how many “core values” you can/should have and how to cultivate them. I’ve seen Warren Buffet’s advice on narrowing your focus to just a couple of aims in an article about being a better leader.
I’m not a guru, and I can’t change your life. Only you can do that! 
I am, however, a person who finds something to be grateful for every day. I believe that paying attention to what you want—and why—is key to happiness.
I could be happier; I could be more successful. I’m satisfied with who, what, and where I am, though, so I’m sharing my simple process in hopes of spreading some empowerment toward self-acceptance.
For me, a short list of targets I know I can meet provides fuel for my willpower engine. If you feel you’ve “failed” at New Year’s Resolutions in the past, consider trying this method for yourself. Little victories may also prove to be your catalyst for bigger wins.
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† The head of the Jewish year also happens to align with the start of the academic calendar and all of its associated beginnings. As an inveterate nerd, I doubt that even the graduation of my children from school will break me of the habit of seeing autumn as the time to begin new projects.
* …just in case anyone is wondering just how much detail I, in particular, choose to include in this kind of longish term thinking. Because, sometimes, it is easier to try something new with a blueprint from a person who went there before you did.
Many of us are heeding public health advice and avoiding travel. Some of us are still grieving lost loved ones whose presence defined
So perhaps I’m not playing so well with others, today. I’m hardly a Sugar Plum Fairy. I’ll be a builder, though, of my own Great Wall of Gratitude.

Here are photos of my new, similar-to-what-I’m-talking-about, winter Happy Holidays gratitude sign. The first one was pink with flowers in honor of the approaching spring. Also flowers, like the holly I’ve sketched here, are easy to draw even without artistic talent. Both were drawn with Sharpie marker on EVA foam construction material to withstand the elements.
Here’s one tangible way that I’m saying thank you to the drivers who serve my community.
I was a little surprised, actually, by how easily I found an array of grab-and-go snacks in my pantry. The cessation of packed school lunches has left me with more “extra” individual serving items than I might have in normal times. Some of these items were included in a gift basket from a colleague, the cereal was one type in a multi-pack that my family didn’t go for, the kosher doughnut came in a Hanukkah Cheer package we received from a local Jewish group.
The internet—and the official sites for the United States Postal Service, FedEx, and UPS—offers conflicting advice on whether and how one may tip professional delivery drivers. Officially, cash seems to be a no-no, or at least strongly discouraged; off the record, I know some drivers sometimes accept gratuities of money or gift cards.
If I were going out, I might buy a dozen or so small denomination gift cards for places like Starbucks or Dunkin’ Donuts that abound in our area. $5 cards to drive thru restaurants seem reasonable, but I hesitate to offer gift cards that may be against the rules for drivers to accept.
I wish I could think of a hygienic way to offer a warm drink on cold days right at my door, but leaving out a flask of hot coffee seems unappealing while a contagious virus is circulating.
If my snacks go quickly and appear popular, I may also try home baked items
My fairly brief investigation into the hallmark engraved on the bottom gives me the impression
I immediately put my little silver box to good use. I store my
My little box—it is about 6″ tall and 6.5 × 8.5″ at the base—may not be as imposing as a medieval lord’s strongbox. The lion heads at the sides, however, imbue a certain gravitas. Their noble expressions may be my very favorite part of the box!


Our “Seder in a Box” was organized by the
More properly described as a “seder in a paper bag,” the package had everything one
Here’s Elijah’s cup on our table. Poor Elijah, like me, had to make do with mostly grape juice this year.